(This is a guest post by Deidre Glendon)

There comes a time when you pause or stop what you’re doing in order to reflect, remember or ponder about your life. You might have gone through an especially difficult time such as the death of a loved one, an accident, an illness, a disease, a divorce or any other traumatic situation. This is the time when you find yourself meditating to become clearer and more centered, contemplating in order to understand or arriving at a resolution regarding the issues that are confronting you.

You may look back, reminisce and contemplate about the choices, decisions and the ways in which you have lived your life. You wonder about how your life would have turned out if you had made different, better and wiser choices and decisions. Would your life have been better? Would you have met and/or married a different person? Would you have had a different occupation? Would different opportunities have opened up for you? There have been many times when I felt I could have made better decisions in my life. The following is an example of what happened to me when I was in my early-to-mid twenties.

As a young mother of four very young children, I was very busy taking care of their basic needs that I didn’t spend enough quality time with them. I didn’t stop to enjoy the little things that happened every day. I was busy all of the time. I cooked, cleaned, did the shopping, took my children to their extracurricular activities and to their doctor and dentist appointments. The list goes on and on. I basically did what I thought I was supposed to do to be a good mother. I made sure that everything ran smoothly.

One day when I was especially overwhelmed I remember speaking with my mother over the telephone. I told her that I couldn’t wait until my children were grown up. I said that it seemed like it was taking forever. Her words of wisdom was that I should enjoy my children when they were young because before you know it they will be grown with lives of their own. They won’t need you the way that they need you now. Then you will be left with the fond memories of the time when they were young. Create those memories now and spend more quality time with them.

I heard the words but I didn’t internalize what they really meant. I chose not to listen to my mother’s advice. I hadn’t known how much truth there was in her advice until years later, when my children grew up. I looked back on my life and their lives regretting the time that I spent being too busy instead of focusing on what really mattered. I regretted ignoring many of the daily celebrations of my children’s lives because I was too busy. I truly missed out on a lot even though I was the one who raised them. The time when my children were young was indeed much too brief, just like my mother had said. It seems like time just flew by. Now my children are grown up and now I know the lesson.

Hindsight is 20/20. When you look back on your life, many times you feel that you could have made better choices if you knew then what you know now. Experience is a great teacher if we learn the lessons so we don’t repeat the painful experiences again. Well, I understand the lesson that my mother was trying to convey to me. I understood it when I became a grandmother.

Even though I loved being a mother, being a grandmother was different. I’m not responsible for every aspect of my grandchildren’s lives anymore but I am able to just love and enjoy my two grandchildren. I am able to give them my full attention and to celebrate each and every milestone in their young lives. I choose to spend quality time with them. I now fully realize that a child is a gift from God. A gift to be loved, nurtured,listened to, understood and enjoyed. Every child is precious. Every moment is to be cherished. Every moment counts.

I learned a valuable life lesson from my mother and my children. I learned that life is a precious gift that should not be taken for granted. Each moment cannot be repeated. Be present and live your life to the fullest. Make the most of every day of your life so there are no regrets!

About the Author:

Deidre Glendon’s tips on her healing blog have helped many to find happiness, forgiveness and inner peace in their lives. Deidre lives in Hawaii, where she obtained her MEd, and has four children and two grandchildren. Her books include The Healing Light, Trouble in Paradise and Light of Forgiveness. At 31, she had a death experience that impacted her life and opened the door to helping people through spiritual counseling.

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